Min Gi doesn't like to plan. He doesn't like to think about tomorrow or the next day, let alone six months or a few years from now. When we were first dating, I would ask him if he wanted to do something on the weekend, and he would say, "Let's just see what happens." I finally broke down and told him that if we don't make plans together, I will make plans with other people or to do other things. He responded, "Well, I don't want to disappoint you if something happens. If I make a promise, I keep it."
I pointed out that if he gets sick or something else comes up that is more important, he can tell me about it and we'll just change our plans, but that if we don't make them, we probably won't see each other often (which is what had been happening for the first couple months). He started making plans with me.
The day I knew that I wanted to marry him (April, 2009):
Min Gi: "Honey, you know how you said you wanted to go to the Boryeong Mud Festival, right? And you said it was two weekends?"
"That's right. In July."
"I think we should go the first weekend because the second weekend is the week before we leave for America. We might want to pack."
I was speechless.
"Nothing's wrong... It's a good idea... but it's just... that's in July! You're making plans?!?"
"I want to be a plan-guy."
How I know he's the right person for me:
Wedding rings are not a tradition in Korea, but we decided we want them. We've selected a style we like, and I did some comparison shopping.
Me: "Hey look at the deal I found on these rings like the ones we wanted. Just $50!"
"Wow! Are you sure they're real?"
"Yeah, the design we're getting is not that expensive. Jewelry just has huge markups."
"Are you sure you don't mind? Don't women usually want expensive wedding rings?"
"I'm not like that. You know that." [Editor's note: This is one of the ways he knows I'm the right person for him. Haha!]
"Yeah, but I also wanted them to have a special meaning."
"Hon, they have a special meaning because they symbolize our love for each other, our promise."
"Or... we planned to spend more money on them anyhow. Why don't we donate the difference to a charity?"
I'm speechless, again. I then show him the website for Amnesty International and we agree to donate $200 (the money most other websites were charging for a similar design) for each ring when we purchase them.